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hlthe2b

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7. You had a very good outcome. Fortunately the Court and the Resources were available to support BOTH the woman AND

Mon Sep 30, 2024, 07:35 PM

Sep 30

the kids. You made sure that happened and I am very happy to hear this.

In some locales, the courts are not so enlightened, and/or there are simply only enough resources for the kids to be placed in a safe environment and not to support both WITH their similarly victimized mother. My former SO provided legal services in several of those circumstances and was all too often thwarted in what he was trying to do. I was horrified hearing about it, but these are the realities around the country. Even in blue states. I understand children coming first at all costs, but to ignore the primary victim--the mother--and thus the needs of the kids to be raised by their mother because they lack resources or staff to supervise the situation is one of the biggest failings of our society. I have to say that (at least in my area) ALL involved would agree but when violence is part of the equation and the kids are at lethal risk, well, sadly your outcome is not always achieved.

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I knew a "Trad Wife". [View all] no_hypocrisy Sep 30 OP

Awesome job. Eko Sep 30 #1

Thank you for the help you gave that family biophile Sep 30 #2

Heroic work Dear_Prudence Sep 30 #3

The husband tried his tricks to manipulate me. no_hypocrisy Sep 30 #5

You're awesome. 50 Shades Of Blue Sep 30 #4

Thank you for a job well done. brer cat Sep 30 #6

You had a very good outcome. Fortunately the Court and the Resources were available to support BOTH the woman AND hlthe2b Sep 30 #7

It was a war on several fronts: no_hypocrisy Sep 30 #9

no_hipocrisy indeed. Job well done Clouds Passing Sep 30 #8

This is the kind of domestic shit JD Vance wants Blue Owl Sep 30 #10

Whew, what a cliffhanger! ShazzieB Sep 30 #11

I caught two big dogs that were escaping to the beach from their home and the dog sitter last week mahina Sep 30 #12

Great story, and I love the happy ending FakeNoose Sep 30 #13

Score one for the Good Guys! NewLarry Sep 30 #14

Thank you is not enough, AllyCat Sep 30 #15

YOU! GAJMac Sep 30 #16

Those guys are all dimpled grins and charm galore Warpy Sep 30 #17

Good job! Wish there were more dedicated folks out there like you relayerbob Sep 30 #18

You're a hero 🥇 live love laugh Sep 30 #19

... Faux pas Sep 30 #20

One of the worst moments: no_hypocrisy Oct 1 #21

Eww... Roxi Oct 1 #23

Thank you. Sadly it's a story for these times. Thank you again and again and again. n/t. NNadir Oct 1 #22

I don't see her as a "trad wife," she was a terrorized victim MorbidButterflyTat Oct 1 #24

Good point. Not clear how much she wanted the "Trad wife" life or if it was forced upon her (putting aside the physical LymphocyteLover Oct 1 #30

So much to unpack here. But, first, thank you for helping a battered woman. Not all attorney's would have... Joinfortmill Oct 1 #25

I do have to wonder how many of the awful men like in this story were also raised in a similar household? LymphocyteLover Oct 1 #31

A wonderful and hopeful thing you did! people Oct 1 #26

You are a really good person. Thank you for making my day. OLDMDDEM Oct 1 #27

Bravo - job well done! So happy this lady got her children back. n/t iluvtennis Oct 1 #28

OH MY GOD! What a story. These far-right Christians are the worst. Thank you for helping her. LymphocyteLover Oct 1 #29

Thank you for being so compassionate and so caring kimbutgar Oct 1 #32

Thank you Wild blueberry Oct 1 #33

How horrible... and you know how many are out there unable to get help :( FirstLight Oct 1 #34

Need more like you. LiberalFighter Oct 1 #35

Thank you KT2000 Oct 1 #36

My third thought (after unbelievable sorrow for her)..was a certain someone else WE know. chouchou Oct 1 #37

You are a hero! geardaddy Oct 1 #38

Wow... you dun good. NT Happy Hoosier Oct 1 #39

Thank you so much for what you did to help her! You went above and beyond. HeartsCanHope Oct 1 #40

bless you cab67 Oct 1 #41

Great effort on your part and appreciate the "case study." I still don't know what TRAD is? though. So out of touch.... Evolve Dammit Oct 1 #42

What is a Trad Wife no_hypocrisy Oct 1 #46

Well done! Aristus Oct 1 #43

You may not want to admit it, but YOU ARE A HERO! Fla Dem Oct 1 #44

Thanks. I get updates from my client and her mother. no_hypocrisy Oct 1 #45

OMG, what a wonderful continuing story. Fla Dem Oct 1 #47

You did the right thing shenmue Nov 6 #48

I was holding my breath Sparkly Nov 7 #49