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busterbrown

(8,515 posts)
50. You're IN DEEP TROUBLE.... and its only gonna get worse .Way worse.
Wed Jan 2, 2013, 04:35 AM
Jan 2013

Last edited Wed Jan 2, 2013, 08:02 AM - Edit history (1)

Forget about the God thing, it is unimportant..Just hit as many meetings as you can. I suggest two
a day. The God thing will come as soon as you get comfortable knowing that it isn’t anyones
business to define how you work the program. I suggest going to the same meetings over and
over again establishing a home group. Just sit down relax and try to put some time together.
Get some self esteem into your life by acquiring some sober time. I week 2 weeks....time
like that is a big deal and isn’t easy to obtain. When you go to a meeting extend your hand out
and introduce yourself. People in A.A. are pretty cool but were fucked up. I have Great Muscian
friends, Lawyers , MDs etc. and we all treat each other the same and a big part of our sobriety
is dependent on these friendships. Movies, golf, dinners, camping, games vegas are all great
times. But you have to stick to going 2 the same meetings all the time. As time goes by
the anxiety diminishes and and the obsession to drink is lifted and thats huge. It will come if you
keep coming to the same meetings. Again don’t worry about God. I’m an agnostic and hate all organized religion with a pure passion. My God is the energy of a.a. which allows me to connect with everyone in the room and allows me to help other people and stay out of my head. Its the energy of the room which is my God. Knowing that there is something beyond our own dumb heads that can make decisions for us is so fucking important. Remember its our best thinking which got us into this shit. Our best thinking I tell you. So we need to believe in something other than what our own head tells us to do. This state of freedom can only come if ypo hang around your homegroup and get some friends.
I live in L.A. and would be glad to be of assistance to you so get back with me or leave me an email
letter!!! This thing works I tell ya...It works. P.s. You are in a fucking mess. Take care of yourself quickly....Please ...

The first step is admitting you have a problem Electric Monk Jan 2012 #1
It helps.... Tippy Jan 2012 #8
My daughter is in crisis...She is NA... Tippy Jan 2012 #9
Oh, man, that really sucks tavalon Feb 2012 #27
Very little you can do at this point... Love her and be an example. But surrendering to this busterbrown Jan 2013 #51
That simple mantra tavalon Feb 2012 #26
Your story sounds familiar. cordelia Jan 2012 #2
You are not alone.. Stuart G Jan 2012 #3
I need to find a post that I once made addressing just this issue. Rhiannon12866 Jan 2012 #4
The power of the rooms tavalon Feb 2012 #28
if you can Old Codger Feb 2012 #33
I'm not disagreeing but with my crazy life and a dearth of CoDA meetings, which tavalon Feb 2012 #39
If Old Codger Feb 2012 #40
Well, I guess in one way I'm lucky tavalon Feb 2012 #41
No harm Old Codger Feb 2012 #42
And speaking for myself tavalon Feb 2012 #43
To all who read your response...This guy has got it going!!!!!! busterbrown Jan 2013 #52
how do you know my story? irisblue Jan 2012 #5
iris, your wiccian faith is perfect NMDemDist2 Jan 2012 #7
from page 10, 44 and beyond, how I did it NMDemDist2 Jan 2012 #6
I have to believe in something more powerful than me, tavalon Feb 2012 #29
Do you want to hear the truth? If not, don't read this message. Tripod Jan 2012 #10
You got it Old Codger Feb 2012 #34
I'm glad you get it. Tripod Feb 2012 #36
I too Old Codger Feb 2012 #37
Simple but not easy tavalon Feb 2012 #44
Lurker here Vanje Jan 2012 #11
yes you can sit in the back and say nothing NMDemDist2 Jan 2012 #13
I've found peace in the meetings and I'm very shy cally Jan 2012 #14
I agree with Cally. Every meeting is different. Rhiannon12866 Jan 2012 #15
They might ask if there are any new people tavalon Feb 2012 #30
Me too Fujiyama Vanje Jan 2012 #12
Well just figured I'd check in again fujiyama Jan 2012 #16
Thanks so much for letting us know how you are! Rhiannon12866 Jan 2012 #17
I'm glad you checked back in and did not drink cally Jan 2012 #18
For most people, just stopping drinking doesn't stop the alcoholism tavalon Feb 2012 #31
Seems to me Old Codger Jan 2012 #19
No alcohol for a week Vanje Jan 2012 #20
congrats. Going without drinking is a big deal cally Jan 2012 #21
I totally agree with cally! Kudos to you! Rhiannon12866 Jan 2012 #22
Congratulations! cordelia Jan 2012 #23
There are fantastic groups online tavalon Feb 2012 #32
Thanks for the good wishes and good vibes. Vanje Jan 2012 #24
Your higher power can be your 12 step group tavalon Feb 2012 #25
What I found Old Codger Feb 2012 #35
As an enabler, I have to chose to be different, not only with the addict who took me to my knees tavalon Feb 2012 #38
addict clean in NA monkeyofstick Oct 2012 #45
welcome to DU NMDemDist2 Oct 2012 #46
You've gotten a lot of good feedback since you posted this. jonpaulprime Oct 2012 #47
CON: You must define God. PRO: You GET TO define God dogknob Nov 2012 #48
“Why don’t you choose your own conception of God?” Fire Walk With Me Nov 2012 #49
You're IN DEEP TROUBLE.... and its only gonna get worse .Way worse. busterbrown Jan 2013 #50
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