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Siwsan

(27,402 posts)
Wed Sep 14, 2022, 07:13 AM Sep 2022

Another example of how you never know when it is 'your time' has flattened me. [View all]

A dear friend of mine - happy, healthy, married for 40 years, 3 sons, 2 granddaughters - just stopped living. No warning, no signs. Her heart simply stopped and could not be restarted.

I'll tell you this, for the last 7 years I've done more grieving than I have in the decades preceding them. 9 family members and 3 friends from work. People whose deaths left behind husbands, wives, children, grandchildren. Yet, here I am, lacking all of those, still here defying the odds.

And losing this friend so soon after the death of Queen Elizabeth, a woman I admired and respected, and who had been, in a way, a part of my life from birth, well, suffice it to say I'm existing in a trench of funk. As tempting as it is to double up on my anti-depression medication, I won't. I'll just follow my usual routine but add in some CBD Calm gummies.

And now I will take a deep breath, dab my eyes, blow my nose, push my 'survivor guilt' to the side and focus on being productive. The outdoor fur babies need more kibble. I might not have people who depend on me to take care of them, but I do have my indoor and outdoor 'kids'.

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That is hard... hlthe2b Sep 2022 #1
He curled up with me, last night. Siwsan Sep 2022 #2
Mother Nature's crew is on the job! SheltieLover Sep 2022 #7
My grandfather moved from N.J. to Florida in 1971. Once a year, he would drive to N.J. 3Hotdogs Sep 2022 #9
Yup... And seeing my father and his equally inpatient brothers--all with wry sense of humor hlthe2b Sep 2022 #11
I'm so sorry. I hope you find some comfort. I know how difficult it can be Walleye Sep 2022 #3
I watch those obits every day on channel 12. (Flint) multigraincracker Sep 2022 #4
you never know when it is 'your time' Glamrock Sep 2022 #5
Amen to that Joinfortmill Sep 2022 #17
Hugs to you,,,,, just hugs. KarenS Sep 2022 #6
No words...take care of yourself... MiHale Sep 2022 #8
... 2naSalit Sep 2022 #10
You have people here. murielm99 Sep 2022 #12
Very sorry to hear of another loss. About the same here. We just keep plugging for those that are Evolve Dammit Sep 2022 #13
81 yrs. here and every day is an adventure - here's some things to ponder packman Sep 2022 #14
Ok, you made me chuckle Siwsan Sep 2022 #22
I hear you. I survived a brain aneurysm, found before it burst. I am lucky and have no idea why... Joinfortmill Sep 2022 #15
It's one of the things we face as we age - the loss wnylib Sep 2022 #16
Siwsan - sorry for the loss of your friend and your grieving, and admiring your strength for moving c-rational Sep 2022 #18
So sorry for your loss. gademocrat7 Sep 2022 #19
We cannot escape death vlyons Sep 2022 #20
Thinking of you marieo1 Sep 2022 #21
I think about it often. OldBaldy1701E Sep 2022 #23
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