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debm55

(30,897 posts)
Tue May 14, 2024, 08:23 PM May 2024

A lack of understanding and kindness. I had described here the toxicity in my home. I last talked to my my mother on [View all]

her birthday. January 2. When I sent her a card with 50 dollars and called her. She neither called or sent me a card for my birthday feb 20 or my son anything on April 25. She said it got lost in the mail. Whatever. Yesterday after the news that my husband has malignant prostrate cancer. I called her. I was heartbroken and was crying. My mother's response was" when you got to die, you die, There is no use crying about it. like a child that has had their toy taken away. Even Jesus died. Don't you believe in Jesus? Stop that crying. Since the phone is on speaker so my sister and mother can hear mutual conversations.My sister states " I guess I'll have to pay for a taxi to take me for my check=up." Mother chimes in the same. These are the folks that had Rich and myself all last summer for my sister's "cancer" which wasn't. Back to call, she gives me a litany of relatives that have died from cancer and ends talking about the flies in her house. Never one frickin word about how Rich was feeling. let alone speak to him. Call ended with, "let us know how he does" Oh yes. my cousin bought her a strawberry pie and I heard how good it was. Nothing to say about Rich except if he is going to die. he'll die. I saw them for what they were when my Mother and sister and a group of relatives said my dad and I have a Jewish nose. Laugh, laugh. and she went bananas having me get the my rosary out of his hands. I guess it will be back to no contact. My husband is kind, will do anything you want. is smart and well educated, loving to me and our son. What selfish , useless people they are.

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Sending love XanaDUer2 May 2024 #1
XanaDUer2. I would even put them in the malignant narcisstic grouping. But it is what it always was and is. My heart debm55 May 2024 #4
I am so sorry. Please stay away from them. They have absolutely nothing to offer you but pain and selfishness. MLAA May 2024 #21
I'm so sorry for what you and your sweetheart are going through. littlemissmartypants May 2024 #2
We here are all with you and your husband in spirit. raging moderate May 2024 #3
My husband is 73. I don't know what I would do if he wasn't here. debm55 May 2024 #8
that's horrifying. barbtries May 2024 #5
I'm sorry, come here and tell us about it anytime you feel like it Walleye May 2024 #6
In my thoughts..... AltairIV May 2024 #7
Now you folks have me crying for the love and support you have shown me. Thank you. I have therapist and a phycologist, debm55 May 2024 #11
Oh God I am sorry. Families can be the worst. Sending you love. Maraya1969 May 2024 #9
I am so sorry to hear about this brutal treatment of you and yours at the hands of your M and sister. SWBTATTReg May 2024 #10
Thank you. debm55 May 2024 #15
Damn, I'm so sorry you have these relatives. Biophilic May 2024 #12
I had a very narcistic mother - TBF May 2024 #13
Thank you for your kind words. debm55 May 2024 #16
So sorry to hear this debm55 RainCaster May 2024 #14
Thank you RainCaster, and I agree. I will go back to no contact. Her closing words were " you call me if something debm55 May 2024 #18
Ask the medical team for support Dear_Prudence May 2024 #17
Thank you very Dear_Prudence that is a great idea. debm55 May 2024 #19
"" AllaN01Bear May 2024 #20
You deserve better, much better Wild blueberry May 2024 #22
So very sad for you Avis May 2024 #23
OMG, whatever you do, Demobrat May 2024 #24
I'm sorry you have zero support from them. Bluethroughu May 2024 #25
I'm so sorry cate94 May 2024 #26
I've been watching stories similar to yours on Youtube... Archae May 2024 #27
All of my story is real--punched out baby teeth, black eyes. broken bones, sexual abuse by grandmother, called a " debm55 May 2024 #34
Oh, my dear Deb Wicked Blue May 2024 #36
Excise them like the human cancer they are . . . hatrack May 2024 #28
Huggggggs, Deb and Rich. Please, for the sake of yours and Rich's sanity niyad May 2024 #29
Those are terrible things to say... AmBlue May 2024 #30
I'm so sorry, debm55. area51 May 2024 #31
Please do not give them any more opportunities to hurt you. onecaliberal May 2024 #32
It's tough when you need support and family isn't capable of it Warpy May 2024 #33
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