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Mental Health Support

barbtries

(29,735 posts)

5. that's horrifying.

Reply to debm55 (Original post)

Tue May 14, 2024, 07:42 PM

May 2024

hateful, despicable conduct. they lost their love. i'm guessing it's constant right wing media content for them, possibly QAnon, but either way, they are a toxic brew and the very last thing you need at the moment. they don't deserve you, and you deserve much, much better, especially a functional support system as you go through a trying time in your life and in your home.

If you can, I think counseling could be really helpful for you at this time. An objective listener who actually cares. Stay in touch with DU as well.

I'm really sorry. what awful people. without love and empathy, how can any two people have a mutually beneficial relationship?

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A lack of understanding and kindness. I had described here the toxicity in my home. I last talked to my my mother on [View all] debm55 May 2024 OP

Sending love XanaDUer2 May 2024 #1

XanaDUer2. I would even put them in the malignant narcisstic grouping. But it is what it always was and is. My heart debm55 May 2024 #4

I am so sorry. Please stay away from them. They have absolutely nothing to offer you but pain and selfishness. MLAA May 2024 #21

I'm so sorry for what you and your sweetheart are going through. littlemissmartypants May 2024 #2

We here are all with you and your husband in spirit. raging moderate May 2024 #3

My husband is 73. I don't know what I would do if he wasn't here. debm55 May 2024 #8

that's horrifying. barbtries May 2024 #5

I'm sorry, come here and tell us about it anytime you feel like it Walleye May 2024 #6

In my thoughts..... AltairIV May 2024 #7

Now you folks have me crying for the love and support you have shown me. Thank you. I have therapist and a phycologist, debm55 May 2024 #11

Oh God I am sorry. Families can be the worst. Sending you love. Maraya1969 May 2024 #9

I am so sorry to hear about this brutal treatment of you and yours at the hands of your M and sister. SWBTATTReg May 2024 #10

Thank you. debm55 May 2024 #15

Damn, I'm so sorry you have these relatives. Biophilic May 2024 #12

I had a very narcistic mother - TBF May 2024 #13

Thank you for your kind words. debm55 May 2024 #16

So sorry to hear this debm55 RainCaster May 2024 #14

Thank you RainCaster, and I agree. I will go back to no contact. Her closing words were " you call me if something debm55 May 2024 #18

Ask the medical team for support Dear_Prudence May 2024 #17

Thank you very Dear_Prudence that is a great idea. debm55 May 2024 #19

"" AllaN01Bear May 2024 #20

You deserve better, much better Wild blueberry May 2024 #22

So very sad for you Avis May 2024 #23

OMG, whatever you do, Demobrat May 2024 #24

I'm sorry you have zero support from them. Bluethroughu May 2024 #25

I'm so sorry cate94 May 2024 #26

I've been watching stories similar to yours on Youtube... Archae May 2024 #27

All of my story is real--punched out baby teeth, black eyes. broken bones, sexual abuse by grandmother, called a " debm55 May 2024 #34

Oh, my dear Deb Wicked Blue May 2024 #36

Excise them like the human cancer they are . . . hatrack May 2024 #28

Huggggggs, Deb and Rich. Please, for the sake of yours and Rich's sanity niyad May 2024 #29

Those are terrible things to say... AmBlue May 2024 #30

I'm so sorry, debm55. area51 May 2024 #31

Please do not give them any more opportunities to hurt you. onecaliberal May 2024 #32

It's tough when you need support and family isn't capable of it Warpy May 2024 #33

K and R (no text) Stuart G May 2024 #35