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Mental Health Support

BrendaBrick

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10. What can you *DO*?

Reply to BeHereNow (Original post)

Tue Jan 31, 2012, 12:36 AM

Jan 2012

Maybe it is in the *non-doing.*

Simply break down your own barriers and listen without pretending to have all the answers. Be completely open with heart and mind and soul and just listen. Just simply BE present with them is all with no expectations.

Most folks self-medicate because they feel no one can understand their feelings. It's not like they want someone to GIVE THEM the answers...or to actually DO ANYTHING...more often than not - all they really need is for someone to give unconditional love and just listen without an agenda and just be present with them with whatever they are going through. Usually - that's enough.

Pretty simply, actually

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I am SO tired... [View all] BeHereNow Jan 2012 OP

I have a friend in the same situation.. mdmc Jan 2012 #1

Not sure pipi_k Jan 2012 #2

i don't know that there is much you can do fizzgig Jan 2012 #3

Both of my kids had substance use and abuse problems. EFerrari Jan 2012 #4

Thanks for all of your loving comments- BeHereNow Jan 2012 #5

Support her efforts to stop, make sure you do nothing that will enable her and prepare for the long jwirr Jan 2012 #6

It's such a long hard road.... BeHereNow Jan 2012 #7

Good she wants to stop drinking. First, MAJOR step. elleng Jan 2012 #8

Will do. My grandson is living with his two children and going for full custody. He is all they can jwirr Jan 2012 #9

What can you *DO*? BrendaBrick Jan 2012 #10

What can you *DO*? BrendaBrick Jan 2012 #11

Thanks Brenda- we had a pretty good talk about it today. BeHereNow Jan 2012 #12

I'm so glad that it went well for both of you BHN! BrendaBrick Jan 2012 #13

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