I know just like she knows I needed a change but carbs are addicting in any form and when we have learned from childhood on to use that as comfort its a hard habit to break.
My adult kids asked me many times to cut down on sugar and I would try then go back like your wife. What finally scared me straight was very high blood pressure and finally a new doctor instead of just raising my meds which she did offered me a book to read about sugar detox.
She probably thought I would toss it and in the beginning I wondered about that. Her book was much to strict measuring food and I knew I would fail so I searched sugar detox in FB groups and found a couple of great groups. One had these zoom meetings like AA to give extra emotional support. They never shame anyone no matter what happens but work on the core of why you eat like you do. They don't talk about food itself or weight at all. Its not a diet just eating healthy and learning to love yourself.
I got off the sugar and flour products but was still overeating cheese nuts etc with the same type of emotions so I asked my hubby to help me since I didn't want to have them completely gone. I bought a fridge lock box and he opens it once a day and I take out just the amount I should have. But I had to be months off the other stuff first.
I used to hate if my husband who can eat anything and not gain weight would give me suggestions. I hated that he could turn down sugar. In my group they say there are 3 types of people with sugar, 1/3 no problem with it at all like him, 1/3 harmful users and a 1/3 that are addicted. I finally did it all on my own and he learned to back off and say nothing when I struggled and let me deal with it.
Now my husband and children are proud of me and I hope that continues but its day by day as I know I am in the addicted category.
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