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marybourg

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3. When my late DH started becoming confused due to Parkinson's, he did

Sat Oct 5, 2024, 12:56 AM

Oct 5

realize it, and was happy to let me handle everything. He even told doctors:”Don’t tell me. Tell my wife”.

When he went into assisted living, he relinquished being a trustee of our revocable trust, so that he could not be scammed out of that money while I was not around. Do you have his power of attorney? You should, but he should not have yours. Maybe you could consider having your SS check deposited into an account in your name only and his SS checks moved to an account in your name only, after it’s deposited into his by the government. This will only really be helpful if he believes he has no money and has to defer to you on spending decisions. It sounds like he might be the kind of guy who could go along with this. He would also have to not answer the phone, but let any legitimate calls be returned by you.

This is a painful situation for both of you. You will have to be very strong. Good luck!

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How do I get through this? [View all] slightlv Oct 4 OP

perhaps if you shared your general location there might be more response nt msongs Oct 5 #1

Wishing you all well TommyT139 Oct 5 #2

Thanks! I'd already planned to do some research, you gave me a place to start! n/t slightlv Oct 5 #13

When my late DH started becoming confused due to Parkinson's, he did marybourg Oct 5 #3

I hate to go to those lengths, but I'm holding them in my slightlv Oct 5 #14

1+ keithbvadu2 Oct 5 #4

I don't really have anything helpful to say except I'm so sorry you are going through this. HeartsCanHope Oct 5 #5

Change the password to your checking and savings accounts. Tess49 Oct 5 #6

Actually, you and I think a lot alike. slightlv Oct 5 #15

I understand your concerns about auto pay. My auto pays are for my utilities, and are posted on the due date of the bill Tess49 Oct 5 #22

If you can't depend on when your autopays get deducted, you PoindexterOglethorpe Oct 15 #26

At first TommyT139 Oct 5 #21

Sending you love BrianTheEVGuy Oct 5 #7

The one hubby gotten taken in by has claimed a LOT of people here in the Midwest. slightlv Oct 5 #16

At least you can vent here. calimary Oct 5 #8

Thank you, calimary. slightlv Oct 5 #17

Oh man... calimary Oct 6 #24

Thank you.. slightlv Oct 6 #25

In early stages Alzheimer's, my hubby gave permission... SleeplessinSoCal Oct 5 #9

We've already done the CT scan. That's why I know it's "normal" aging. slightlv Oct 5 #18

My David secretly told the neurologist about his concerns. SleeplessinSoCal Oct 5 #23

Based on personal experience Lulu KC Oct 5 #10

Love your last sentence! :) slightlv Oct 5 #19

If you haven't already, it might be time to look into laws/process for conservatoryship Attilatheblond Oct 5 #11

We can be sure that we're not sissies! WhiteTara Oct 5 #12

Thank you for your thoughts, Tara. slightlv Oct 5 #20

Just your first two sentences PoindexterOglethorpe Oct 15 #27

Good for you! slightlv Oct 15 #28