Bereavement

... because I understand your anger - and I also understand your sister's pain.

In a few weeks, I will face the second anniversary of my beloved husband's passing. There have been times when I hoped I would fall asleep - and simply not wake up again.

I know I should feel an obligation to "be here" for my children, my siblings, my friends. And yet there is the overwhelming thought that the future I'd envisioned sharing with my husband is now a future of "me" instead of "we". The plans we'd made to retire together, maybe do some traveling, visit far-flung friends and relatives - it all disappeared overnight.

You have a right to be angry. Indulge in it - scream, cry, and curse the forces that led your sister to do what she did.

But remember that grief can be a force too powerful for some to fight, too overwhelming for some to overcome.

Your anger will pass. Your own grief will be with you for a long time to come.

My thoughts are with you and your family.