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In reply to the discussion: My sister committed suicide today. I'm the one who.found her and [View all]WomenRising2017
(203 posts)128. I am so very sorry for your loss.
As someone who has also lost a loved one to suicide, I wish I could hug you right now.
It's a long journey to understanding, and acceptance of the loss.
I know you are in pain right now, but eventually the anger will subside.
Eventually, you won't see it as a selfish move on her part, but as an illness that she couldn't cope with.
She didn't mean to hurt you. She just simply wanted to stop feeling hurt.
It took me 30 years to understand that.
Much love to you. And again, I am so very sorry for your loss. I wish you peace and comfort.
Remember the love that you shared. Treasure the memories. And try to understand that her death was not meant to hurt you.
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My sister committed suicide today. I'm the one who.found her and [View all]
sinkingfeeling
Apr 2017
OP
So sorry for both you and for her. The grief and sorrow of losing a spouse can be overwhelming.
SharonAnn
Apr 2017
#126
Really sorry for your loss. What you went through is so traumatic. I hope you have someone to
still_one
Apr 2017
#16
Our local Hospice was a great help to my daughter and her 5 year old son when the baby died of SIDS
Hekate
Apr 2017
#66
I am so terribly sorry, sf. I want to add my support for Ocean's suggestion.
BlancheSplanchnik
Apr 2017
#181
My dad hanged himself in 1973- This won't go away. Please find a group, a therapist, a clergy-person
NBachers
Apr 2017
#41
My condolences for your loss. We never know how a person will handle the loss of a spouse.
Frustratedlady
Apr 2017
#43
My mom did the same thing ten months after my father died. She was 78. I found her.
notdarkyet
Apr 2017
#53
Thank you all. The worse to me was that she was a trained social worker, but I couldn't get her to
sinkingfeeling
Apr 2017
#56
I'm sorry for your loss, but I have thought about doing the same thing rather than having my loved
mia
Apr 2017
#64
I'm sorry for your loss and I'm even more sorry that you were the one who found her...
TheDebbieDee
Apr 2017
#67
I am so sorry for your loss... I have had several very, very close friends that committed suicide...
Raster
Apr 2017
#88
Sometimes that is the best option for a person and it is not an easy decision, I KNOW TOO!
BigmanPigman
Apr 2017
#136
(((((((((((sf)))))) so very, very sorry for your devastating loss. as others have said,
niyad
Apr 2017
#172
Did you not notice what forum this was posted in? I have been a member of DU
sinkingfeeling
Apr 2017
#185
It's obvious to me that this group isn't for you. We are a SUPPORT group not a tearing down group.
auntAgonist
Apr 2017
#216
So sorry you have to experience such anguish and grief. Wishing you moments of peace
JudyM
Apr 2017
#186
I cannot possibly comprehend your loss ..but my deepest condolences are with you.
Le Gaucher
Apr 2017
#196
I cannot begin to imagine your pain at this time. I hope you can find some comfort here
auntAgonist
Apr 2017
#217