Bereavement

It's a tragedy and a shock. Please know that everybody handles grief differently, so however you feel, is the way you should be feeling. It's been less than three weeks, so you're probably still in shock. Nobody can tell you if it's too soon to do anything, but please be kind to yourself. Don't feel pressure to do or not do anything. I lost my husband six years ago after only 3 1/2 years of marriage. He was only 48 years old and I am still grieving for him - I miss him terribly. You will go through different emotions, probably several times a day. Despair, guilt, regret, anxiety. Grief is a rollercoaster. I am a social worker and I returned to work 2 1/2 weeks after he died, probably too soon. However, the fact that I had some place to go, something to do that helped other people - that really saved me, and has saved me ever since. I sincerely don't know if I would have survived without it. I don't wish that grief on anyone. Again, please don't let anybody tell you how you should be, act or what you should do.

Please don't hesitate to message me if you need an ear.

Wishing you peace,
Kim (aka Choie)