Bereavement

crimycarny

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86. I lost my son to suicide 1/27/2022--he was 25

Sun Jul 31, 2022, 10:34 PM

Jul 2022

I’m so sorry for your loss. The pain associated with the death of a child by suicide is immeasurable.

I found Jamie Raskin’s book “Unthinkable” an absolute lifesaver. To hear all they did for Tommy, yet Tommy still succumbed to his mental illness, helped to ease—just a bit—my guilt.

Alliance of Hope has been a huge help ( https://allianceofhope.org/ ) as has “Friends for Survival” support groups. https://friendsforsurvival.org/

No words are adequate to address the pain I know you are feeling. I am so sorry.

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grieving a suicide death of my son [View all] equite Jul 2022 OP

My condolences for your loss. TexasTowelie Jul 2022 #1

So sorry, but channeling your efforts in this way would be fantastic for so many reasons! Eliot Rosewater Jul 2022 #2

I sm so sorry for your loss. It is a worthy cause to put your focus on. I hope it helps you. onecaliberal Jul 2022 #3

I am so very sorry. Laffy Kat Jul 2022 #4

So Very Sorry. 😢 vanlassie Jul 2022 #5

I'm so very sorry for your loss cate94 Jul 2022 #6

Oh God vercetti2021 Jul 2022 #7

I'm so sorry for your loss. Solly Mack Jul 2022 #8

So sorry for your loss. ProudMNDemocrat Jul 2022 #9

Perhaps think of Jamie Raskin leftieNanner Jul 2022 #10

thank you equite Jul 2022 #20

MSNBC did a documentary on Raskin and his work in the aftermath of his son's death. femmedem Jul 2022 #48

Jamie Raskin came to mind immediately. ariadne0614 Jul 2022 #34

Jamie was also my first thought. I think the committee has helped him deal with his son's death Frustratedlady Jul 2022 #83

I am so sorry. PoindexterOglethorpe Jul 2022 #11

I'm so very sorry. Bipolar here and suicide has happened in my family as well. GPV Jul 2022 #12

I am so sorry, equite. brer cat Jul 2022 #13

I'm so sorry bucolic_frolic Jul 2022 #14

Equite, I am so very sorry for the loss of your son. choie Jul 2022 #15

That was a wonderful response to this post! BigmanPigman Jul 2022 #63

Thank you so much, Bigman choie Jul 2022 #78

Please accept my condolences for a profound loss. MontanaMama Jul 2022 #16

I'm very sorry for your loss. I lost my sister to suicide in 2017. Find a grief counseling group if sinkingfeeling Jul 2022 #17

kindness equite Jul 2022 #18

My deepest sympathy to you. My stepdaughter has an autistic son. He won't take all his meds, Karadeniz Jul 2022 #19

holding you in the light. thanks for sharing and keep in touch n/t KatK Jul 2022 #21

I am so sorry Bettie Jul 2022 #22

I'm very sorry for your loss. Mousetoescamper Jul 2022 #23

I am so sorry, equite. badhair77 Jul 2022 #24

I'm so very, very sorry for your loss. dixiechiken1 Jul 2022 #25

There is no loss like this. Please know, you are not alone. TygrBright Jul 2022 #26

Great words of wisdom. grantcart Jul 2022 #52

Suicide Survivor groups are immensely helpful! yellowdogintexas Jul 2022 #65

In my experience MuseRider Jul 2022 #27

so sorry to hear about your loss - bluboid Jul 2022 #28

I have no words to add to all those postings above. Just know that this is a safe place for you alwaysinasnit Jul 2022 #29

Sorry for your loss Stuart G Jul 2022 #30

Deepest sympathies on the loss of your son FakeNoose Jul 2022 #31

I wish I could hold you.... duhneece Jul 2022 #32

I can't imagine your agony and grief. So sorry. 70sEraVet Jul 2022 #33

I am so so sorry for your great loss. irisblue Jul 2022 #35

Thank you for being expressive. elleng Jul 2022 #36

I am so sorry for you loss. I wish I had words. Maraya1969 Jul 2022 #37

I'm so sorry you lost your son, especially so tragically. Please highplainsdem Jul 2022 #38

I'm so terribly sorry for your loss. chowder66 Jul 2022 #39

You picked the right place to post. Many many wonderful people here to listen and talk to you. housecat Jul 2022 #40

I'm so sorry for your loss.. mountain grammy Jul 2022 #41

Know that things will get better. Ligyron Jul 2022 #42

words never seem enough MissKat Jul 2022 #43

So sorry to hear about your son. ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ thank you for sharing and know that you are loved a kennedy Jul 2022 #44

I'm so very sorry, Equite. femmedem Jul 2022 #45

I'm so sorry for your loss. area51 Jul 2022 #46

So very sorry for the tragic loss of your son, Equite! summer_in_TX Jul 2022 #47

My Condolences. GB_RN Jul 2022 #49

I am so sorry for your loss. My daughter is bi-polar, so we have come so close to losing her. mommymarine2003 Jul 2022 #50

Concentrate on those grandkids. NoMoreRepugs Jul 2022 #51

It would honor your son's memory for you to fight for a better world jmbar2 Jul 2022 #53

Sincere condolences Alice Kramden Jul 2022 #54

My heart goes out to you. Thank you for sharing. 58Sunliner Jul 2022 #55

My best friend was bipolar - hypomania. Jarqui Jul 2022 #56

I am so very sorry for your loss. Please know that suicide prevention fierywoman Jul 2022 #57

So sorry mdelaguna Jul 2022 #58

Some good advice here, for sure. calimary Aug 2022 #107

Oh, Delphinus Jul 2022 #59

So sorry for your loss ybbor Jul 2022 #60

I'm very sorry for your loss dlk Jul 2022 #61

Sorry waltp4328 Jul 2022 #62

I am so terribly sorry, just letting you know that you're not alone here Rhiannon12866 Aug 2022 #95

welcome to DU gopiscrap Aug 2022 #115

So sorry IbogaProject Jul 2022 #64

So sorry about your son Tree Lady Jul 2022 #66

So very sorry for your loss. Remember the good. Enoki33 Jul 2022 #67

I'm so sorry for your loss... COL Mustard Jul 2022 #68

I'm so sorry we can do it Jul 2022 #69

So sorry for your loss kimbutgar Jul 2022 #70

for me it was my father in 1981. I actually attended two survivor yellowdogintexas Jul 2022 #71

God bless you, your son , and your family. Joinfortmill Jul 2022 #72

You are in grief and yet you put other members tavernier Jul 2022 #73

Im so sorry. amywalk Jul 2022 #74

Sending my sincere sympathy Duppers Jul 2022 #75

So very sorry. RexLipton Jul 2022 #76

So sorry.I can't imagine the pain you must feeling redstateblues Jul 2022 #77

I'm sorry to hear of your terrible loss, equite. yonder Jul 2022 #79

I hope this helps Victor_c3 Jul 2022 #80

So very sorry for your loss. Sogo Jul 2022 #81

I am so sorry. 💔 AmBlue Jul 2022 #82

We have a lot in common. Sending you love and aloha and a prayer for easing your stress and pain. mahina Jul 2022 #84

My deepest condolences to you on the loss of your son virgdem Jul 2022 #85

I lost my son to suicide 1/27/2022--he was 25 crimycarny Jul 2022 #86

I'm so very sorry mzmolly Jul 2022 #87

I am so sorry for your loss. Grumpy Old Guy Jul 2022 #88

I'm so sorry wendyb-NC Jul 2022 #89

I'm so sorry for your loss MindHowYouGo Jul 2022 #90

Alliance of Hope forum crimycarny Jul 2022 #91

OMG... I am so with you... CaptainTruth Jul 2022 #92

So sorry. CottonBear Jul 2022 #93

I am so, so sorry for your loss and pain... Trueblue Texan Aug 2022 #94

I read your post this AM and just now I read a post I thought you BigmanPigman Aug 2022 #96

a terrible loss MFM008 Aug 2022 #97

So sorry 💔 .... peacebuzzard Aug 2022 #98

I am so sorry. barbtries Aug 2022 #99

So very sorry for your loss, equite. gademocrat7 Aug 2022 #100

You will begin to gain strength through your grief randr Aug 2022 #101

I am so terribly sorry cydney_wong Aug 2022 #102

I'm so very sorry G2theD Aug 2022 #103

My deepest condolences to you. Nt spooky3 Aug 2022 #104

I am so sorry for your loss and pain pandr32 Aug 2022 #105

"This should be normal"? wryter2000 Aug 2022 #106

Hardest thing I ever did was bury my brother. The Jungle 1 Aug 2022 #108

I'm so sorry. n/t G2theD Aug 2022 #109

(((hugs))) samnsara Aug 2022 #110

My condolences for your loss. sop Aug 2022 #111

..... DashOneBravo Aug 2022 #112

I know parents of suicides Marthe48 Aug 2022 #113

Such a sad reason for a first post here. 3catwoman3 Aug 2022 #114

I don't have any good advice except... imavoter Aug 2022 #116