Bereavement

Ligyron

(7,894 posts)

50. You are fortunate beyond words.

Reply to SleeplessinSoCal (Original post)

Mon Jul 15, 2024, 03:12 PM

Jul 2024

You had something a surprising number of us, myself included, never really had...an intense, lasting Love with a romantic partner. You somehow found each other in a world that can often be less than kind. That's miraculous!

I'm married now and we're both good for and to each other, have an amazing daughter but I lost my only real love 48 years ago and it was all my fault. I was bitter for a long time but then someone said to me those famous words: "Don't be sad it ended, be glad it ever happened in the first place."

That thought has helped a lot and it applies to far more than losing a love...>

Be kind to yourself, you deserve it

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Gone too soon at 95 1/2. My darling darling died. [View all] SleeplessinSoCal Jul 2024 OP

I am so so verry sorry for your great great loss. irisblue Jul 2024 #1

I'm so very sorry for your loss. DarthDem Jul 2024 #2

I'm so sorry for your loss. greatauntoftriplets Jul 2024 #3

Condolences, SleeplessinSoCal gademocrat7 Jul 2024 #4

My deepest sympathies and condolences to you. Marcus IM Jul 2024 #5

Sincere and heartfelt condolences to you and your great loss. SheilaAnn Jul 2024 #6

Your profound love and your profound loss has touch me, here in Ohio, a stranger. I wish for you Ninga Jul 2024 #7

What a sweet tribute. 3catwoman3 Jul 2024 #8

Heartfelt condolences to you. Desert grandma Jul 2024 #9

I am so sorry for your loss. redstatebluegirl Jul 2024 #10

I'm so very sorry for your loss. Hugs. sinkingfeeling Jul 2024 #11

At this time and space, my heart is with you. Try to live. I'll bet that's what he'd want. chouchou Jul 2024 #12

Your tribute is beautiful and a life together many could only hope for. Deuxcents Jul 2024 #13

I am so sorry... Hugs. All the peaceful, loving vibes to you onecaliberal Jul 2024 #14

what a sweet post Kali Jul 2024 #15

I'm so sorry for your loss cate94 Jul 2024 #16

He still loves you. Keep that in your heart. ancianita Jul 2024 #17

Your post is a testament to a great love! cilla4progress Jul 2024 #18

Your words are so very touching. Sogo Jul 2024 #19

Seems like Codifer Jul 2024 #20

I'm so sorry you have lost your love. AllyCat Jul 2024 #21

So very sorry Lulu KC Jul 2024 #22

I'm so sorry for your loss. StarryNite Jul 2024 #23

So saddened by your loss....thank goodnesss for memories.... Karadeniz Jul 2024 #24

I'm so sorry. His passing was spent with the love of his life. I cannot imagine your grief. NoSheep Jul 2024 #25

Holding you and your beloved husband in my heart. lapucelle Jul 2024 #26

I'm so very sorry for your loss. KS Toronado Jul 2024 #27

I'm so sorry for your loss. How much you must miss him. femmedem Jul 2024 #28

My condolences, SleeplessinSoCal nuxvomica Jul 2024 #29

We were both there. SleeplessinSoCal Jul 2024 #59

Sleepless in SoCal, sending you love, mahina Jul 2024 #30

So Sorry people Jul 2024 #31

Oh, Sleepless... thank you so much for sharing your love and your pain. TygrBright Jul 2024 #32

Oh, Sleepless. summer_in_TX Jul 2024 #33

My condolences and thank you for sharing this. How lucky that you found each other. chowder66 Jul 2024 #34

From your beautiful tribute, I can only imagine the love between you two. I am truly sorry for your loss. LoisB Jul 2024 #35

I am so sorry for his passing. Thanks for sharing what was a really wonderful marriage and life together. Take care. Evolve Dammit Jul 2024 #36

I am so sorry for your loss, SleeplessinSoCal. sheshe2 Jul 2024 #37

Peace Roy Rolling Jul 2024 #38

Thanks very much for sharing. I'm sorry you're going through this. You have my sincere sympathies. Oopsie Daisy Jul 2024 #39

Sending you love and peace. PittBlue Jul 2024 #40

I'm... JoeOtterbein Jul 2024 #41

So sorry IbogaProject Jul 2024 #42

I'm so sorry for your loss. Solly Mack Jul 2024 #43

Oh my, he sounds lovely. Hugs. Joinfortmill Jul 2024 #44

Sending healing thoughts and prayers to you and your family. Ziggysmom Jul 2024 #45

I'm so very sorry JustAnotherGen Jul 2024 #46

Your husband sounds wonderful Laurelin Jul 2024 #47

So very sorry! PortTack Jul 2024 #48

Saddened. cachukis Jul 2024 #49

You are fortunate beyond words. Ligyron Jul 2024 #50

Of course my greatest sympathies birdographer Jul 2024 #51

All the best Botany Jul 2024 #52

Very sorry oldtime dfl_er Jul 2024 #53

Sending you all the love and care and sympathy and support that I can muster. calimary Jul 2024 #54

My deepest sympathy on the loss of your husband. livetohike Jul 2024 #55

What a wonderful relationship you had PatSeg Jul 2024 #56

I'm so sorry for your loss 🩵 live love laugh Jul 2024 #57

No doubt lillypaddle Jul 2024 #58

I'm so sorry for your great loss. No words are enough. Ocelot II Jul 2024 #60

I'm so sorry Bettie Jul 2024 #61

I'm so sorry for your loss, Sleepless. brer cat Jul 2024 #62

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ Habitation Jul 2024 #63

Sorry for your loss Groundhawg Jul 2024 #64

if all good people read these responses.. SleeplessinSoCal Jul 2024 #65

so sorry, so very hard....❤️ peacebuzzard Jul 2024 #66

Some food for thought on empathy. SleeplessinSoCal Jul 2024 #67

I am sorry for your loss LetMyPeopleVote Jul 2024 #68

I know... Richluu Jul 2024 #69

My deepest condolences to you and your family. HeartsCanHope Jul 2024 #70

So very sorry for your loss. I lost my wife three months ago. maveric Jul 2024 #71

Thank you for sharing him - what a wonderful tribute TBF Jul 2024 #72

I'm so very, very sorry. KatyaR Jul 2024 #73

Deepest sympathy orangecrush Jul 2024 #74

I'm so sorry for your loss. Your tribute to your husband is tremendously moving. highplainsdem Jul 2024 #75

Thank you highplainsdem for sharing this. SleeplessinSoCal Jul 2024 #78

What a great picture, and great memories! I'm so glad there's video of that performance. highplainsdem Jul 2024 #86

One of the On Your Toes dancers reached out and said... SleeplessinSoCal Jul 2024 #87

That was an amazing scene - I'll post video from the film below. And I found a photo of David in that scene highplainsdem Jul 2024 #93

Thanks! SleeplessinSoCal Jul 2024 #98

You're very welcome! Thanks for posting the photo, larger than I saw it on that website, with your guy highplainsdem Jul 2024 #108

Lovely thoughts. SleeplessinSoCal Jul 2024 #109

. Demovictory9 Jul 2024 #76

So very sorry for your loss. Nululu Jul 2024 #77

A wonderful tribute to your husband and your wonderful life together. Fla Dem Jul 2024 #79

I am very sorry for your loss. I have come to think of grief like this: NNadir Jul 2024 #80

I'm so sorry, SleeplessinSoCal MerrilyMerrily Jul 2024 #81

I'm so sorry. MiKenMi33 Jul 2024 #82

Oh my. MontanaMama Jul 2024 #83

How lucky you were/are to have babylonsister Jul 2024 #84

My sincere condolences. 58Sunliner Jul 2024 #85

I am so sorry UpInArms Jul 2024 #88

I understand part of your journey very, very, well. MLAA Jul 2024 #89

Sleepless...... essaynnc Jul 2024 #90

May his memory Mme. Defarge Jul 2024 #91

Thank you for sharing, your love for eachother is the beauty Bluethroughu Jul 2024 #92

(.) dchill Jul 2024 #94

May your earlier memories of him be a blessing. surfered Jul 2024 #95

I am so sorry you have lost your love, Sleepless. LudwigPastorius Jul 2024 #96

Dear SleeplessinSoCal what a profound and poignant post. littlemissmartypants Jul 2024 #97

my deepest sympathy for your loss, I cannot imagine the hole in your heart you must have Celerity Jul 2024 #99

I am very sorry. n/t S/V Loner Jul 2024 #100

so sorry to hear peasant one Jul 2024 #101

I'm sorry for your loss. area51 Jul 2024 #102

My heart breaks for you...I am so very sorry. Mad_Dem_X Jul 2024 #103

I am so sorry. pandr32 Jul 2024 #104

Missing my old boy dem in texas Jul 2024 #105

I'm so very very sorry for your tremendous loss. 😢 benfranklin1776 Jul 2024 #106

Reading this really touched my heart. Sucha NastyWoman Jul 2024 #107

I have family. And friends. SleeplessinSoCal Jul 2024 #110

So soon... sounds like he's still there... in heart Festivito Jul 2024 #111