2016 Postmortem

Hekate

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53. I finally cut off a relative 5 years ago. Nothing ever changed -- it was always an "emergency"....

Sun Dec 4, 2016, 03:20 PM

Dec 2016

Month after month and year after year, until the "loans" were about 20 grand.

I was emotionally stretched to the limit by other events and ended up screaming NO at the last request when I finally snapped. Had to explain to my husband that it would never make a difference; that in the future she would stagger on with the same behavior and the same emergencies, and there was nothing we could do to make it change.

Nothing has changed, except she decided the "loans" were a gift. Oh, and she doesn't like me.

The other change? She doesn't get to emotionally blackmail me any more.

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I have to pay for my TRUMP voting cousin's groceries this month [View all] bravenak Dec 2016 OP

Lots in my family are broke metroins Dec 2016 #1

My cousin is stupid too bravenak Dec 2016 #3

My neighbor is a Black Trump supporter sfwriter Dec 2016 #15

Trump was more openly hostile to mexicans than blacks so he might be able to rationalize it bravenak Dec 2016 #16

They really believe this. ananda Dec 2016 #21

anything enid602 Dec 2016 #66

Next month..let him budget better Liberal_in_LA Dec 2016 #2

He'd better... bravenak Dec 2016 #4

Your cousin has zero self awareness. madaboutharry Dec 2016 #5

He is a nasty person bravenak Dec 2016 #7

You are awesome yeoman6987 Dec 2016 #17

Wow, Brave NastyRiffraff Dec 2016 #75

And what makes him think all Mexicans are getting food stamps? OK then he at least will be doing lunasun Dec 2016 #6

He can't get them. So it must be because the mexicans are getting them all. bravenak Dec 2016 #10

Dude needs to pull himself up by his own freaking hobnail boots Achilleaze Dec 2016 #8

His repub friend tell him how special he is for being republican bravenak Dec 2016 #11

So, why are you paying for this freeloader's groceries? TreasonousBastard Dec 2016 #9

So he doesn't die bravenak Dec 2016 #12

I now see your post above. Bummer that this falls on you. TreasonousBastard Dec 2016 #13

I try to only show up and give him his handouts. No talky. He's too dumb bravenak Dec 2016 #14

Not that dumb since he has you buying him groceries. LisaL Dec 2016 #38

I'm a different kind of dumb bravenak Dec 2016 #59

Would he die if he sold his SUV? DFW Dec 2016 #42

That is his reason for living bravenak Dec 2016 #51

That must be a hard thing to subsidize DFW Dec 2016 #76

You don't think he'd sell the SUV before starving? Crunchy Frog Dec 2016 #56

No bravenak Dec 2016 #58

You're a bigger person than me kimbutgar Dec 2016 #18

+1 PugDadDem Dec 2016 #43

I hear ya! Adrahil Dec 2016 #19

I find it infuriating. But it's my relative bravenak Dec 2016 #20

I still love my sister too.... Adrahil Dec 2016 #22

it's your relative bilking US taxpayers AND you! wordpix Dec 2016 #25

You are incredibly magnanimous WhiteTara Dec 2016 #23

I should sell him some bootstraps, but he's too dumb to get the joke bravenak Dec 2016 #24

When gas prices rise -and they will - LisaM Dec 2016 #26

Are you being sarcastic? Dyedinthewoolliberal Dec 2016 #27

Why? Barack_America Dec 2016 #28

My cousins in Pennsylvania voted for him because they are racists. I am embarrassed that hrmjustin Dec 2016 #29

Just curious...why are they rascists? Seems like your family is not. AgadorSparticus Dec 2016 #32

Great question that I do not have an answer to. hrmjustin Dec 2016 #33

Interesting how some people when exposed to diversity become more tolerant AgadorSparticus Dec 2016 #81

Yes. My neighborhood has had an influx of Middle Eastern immigrants in the past few hrmjustin Dec 2016 #82

Here's a tidbit to cheer up your Trump-voting relatives - Vinca Dec 2016 #30

I hope she goes bankrupt bravenak Dec 2016 #50

tRump nor his family will ever go broke now ... LenaBaby61 Dec 2016 #60

Its desperate bravenak Dec 2016 #64

I see Trump voters among my patients ismnotwasm Dec 2016 #31

It's always so weird to talk politucs with him bravenak Dec 2016 #49

I wonder if they'll be ... LenaBaby61 Dec 2016 #61

I guess you're lucky he is skinny. HassleCat Dec 2016 #34

I know exactly how you feel. Croney Dec 2016 #35

Excellent! tavernier Dec 2016 #39

That would be great for me to do bravenak Dec 2016 #48

So you are purchasing groceries for a guy who you say does work, also has various assistance, and LisaL Dec 2016 #36

No, you don't have to pay for his groceries. PoindexterOglethorpe Dec 2016 #37

+1 Dawson Leery Dec 2016 #44

Tell him he can budget better or go to the food pantry. LenaBaby61 Dec 2016 #70

And you are not letting him rely on the soon pigliCON safety net why? lonestarnot Dec 2016 #40

Yeah melman Dec 2016 #41

You're a bigger person that I am. nycbos Dec 2016 #45

You are in an unique position to deliver a dose of reality to your cousin stopbush Dec 2016 #46

Lol, no, he should move back home to LA bravenak Dec 2016 #47

A lot of people are saying we shouldn't talk down to these folks.. JHan Dec 2016 #52

I finally cut off a relative 5 years ago. Nothing ever changed -- it was always an "emergency".... Hekate Dec 2016 #53

Yep. I told him to get it from my sister from now on bravenak Dec 2016 #54

I used to work for a state Medicaid program. The white wingers who suddenly found themselves in Hoyt Dec 2016 #55

I see it all the time bravenak Dec 2016 #57

I'd put a note with the food that read: "Every bite you take is courtesy of your Liberal Cousin Siwsan Dec 2016 #62

I'll say it's from OBAMA. He really hates obama more than anything bravenak Dec 2016 #65

Good idea Siwsan Dec 2016 #77

You're a better person than I am radical noodle Dec 2016 #63

No i'm not. I will give it to him very nastily bravenak Dec 2016 #68

It sounds like he deserves at least that radical noodle Dec 2016 #73

You are a compassionate person. pbmus Dec 2016 #67

Nope. I am not nice I just want to say something mean as i give him a handout bravenak Dec 2016 #69

Well, I'm done with helping people who need a new SUV and can't afford food. Choices consequences SharonAnn Dec 2016 #71

Thanks, Jesus, for this food Warren DeMontague Dec 2016 #72

I hope you're telling him this is a one-time thing. Squinch Dec 2016 #74

What did he request at the grocery store? Ilsa Dec 2016 #78

I guess you are a better person than me sabbat hunter Dec 2016 #79

Damn bravenak, you're good! Chitown Kev Dec 2016 #80