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F4lconF16

(3,747 posts)
9. Excellent article.
Thu Feb 26, 2015, 07:25 PM
Feb 2015
A mindful ally knows that their “ally card” expires at 11:59 p.m. every night, and that every day there’s the opportunity to be a stronger ally and build more meaningful relationships. However, allyship is not a process for the weak-willed or faint of heart, neither is it for people of color to work with progressives and allies who themselves are complicit in the oppression of people who are marginalized.

It is most certainly not for the faint of heart. It is not easy to look closely at ourselves and confront our bigotries, and they are many, both conscious and not. Truly listening to someone tell you that you hold bigotry inside you is both painful and enlightening. But here's the way I look at it: as tough as it is to admit my prejudices, it is one hell of a lot harder for the person on the receiving end. I can't stomach the thought that my ignorance of myself would bring others harm. It's one thing to screw up on occasion, and another to shut yourself off from criticism or advice entirely, which is what many privileged progressives do.

There is a huge amount of resistance among the white liberal community to the fact that we are and always will be complicit to some extent in the oppression of PoC. Though I suppose it's to be expected, it's disheartening. I see the same thing when it comes to women's rights and liberal men. Above all, we need to listen and empathize. This is, I think, why there was such a large backlash against people who called out (and rightfully so) Patricia Arquette for her comments backstage. We refused to listen, and instead of attempting to understand our own reaction, we diminished and trivialized the issues presented.

Thanks for the article.

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"We do expect respect, support, and trust from our progressive allies, Vincardog Feb 2015 #1
Thank you. bravenak Feb 2015 #3
I believe I understand what I just read in the article, but frankly I'm not sure. BlueJazz Feb 2015 #2
Anything I can help clear up? bravenak Feb 2015 #4
Is the bottom line: We Black women are not recieving the respect and help from ... BlueJazz Feb 2015 #5
Sure. This has been a problem since the beginning. bravenak Feb 2015 #7
"If intersectionality is not a part of feminism, then I guess I'm not a feminist. F4lconF16 Feb 2015 #10
Glad to make you smile. bravenak Feb 2015 #11
"I ruined the entire movement by voicing the concerns of black women." Wow. You know, it's sad ... BlueJazz Feb 2015 #12
I did check to see if I messed up and wrote in German or Spanish. bravenak Feb 2015 #14
"Those women were hella strong." From reading about their lives, if they can't get someone... BlueJazz Feb 2015 #17
I wish I was too. bravenak Feb 2015 #18
This post is a thing of beauty Number23 Feb 2015 #35
It definately was on DU. bravenak Feb 2015 #37
Empathy sheshe2 Feb 2015 #6
I know you already know this. bravenak Feb 2015 #8
"By saying I felt marginalized I got marginalized." sheshe2 Feb 2015 #15
It's cool. bravenak Feb 2015 #16
Excellent article. F4lconF16 Feb 2015 #9
I'm glad you understand. bravenak Feb 2015 #13
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"I think it's best to discuss stuff, rather than be silent so as to not offend." brer cat Feb 2015 #19
I like that pie/cake thing. Perfect way to say it. bravenak Feb 2015 #20
What really gets me ismnotwasm Feb 2015 #21
I know. I had to go back and seriously read articles on this to figure out wtf. bravenak Feb 2015 #22
It's embarrassing you know? ismnotwasm Feb 2015 #24
Yeah, it is kinda embarassing. bravenak Feb 2015 #25
Heh! ismnotwasm Feb 2015 #30
I'll stop and get popcorn first. bravenak Feb 2015 #33
I already got plenty for all of us, bravenak. sheshe2 Feb 2015 #34
Damn!!! bravenak Feb 2015 #36
I was part of the 70s brer cat Feb 2015 #38
Love you too. bravenak Feb 2015 #39
^^^^This^^^^ sheshe2 Feb 2015 #51
^^^^This^^^^ sheshe2 Feb 2015 #23
I am not sure of the intent here. Please clarify guillaumeb Feb 2015 #26
I am posting it because it's a real problem. bravenak Feb 2015 #27
not wanting to say what you feel guillaumeb Feb 2015 #28
Pretty much. bravenak Feb 2015 #31
just read "America the free" guillaumeb Feb 2015 #29
The poem? bravenak Feb 2015 #32
I wish I knew some Black Women Feminists in real life. Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2015 #40
Did you look around on the internet a bit? bravenak Feb 2015 #41
work atmosphere does make it hard to have serious conversations. Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2015 #42
Here are a couple of sites I like to read. bravenak Feb 2015 #43
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I was raised both ways. bravenak Feb 2015 #45
Thanks Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2015 #46
You're welcome. bravenak Feb 2015 #47
Lolol ... yes, blue/black. I think it depends a lot on the monitor/screen/processor. Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2015 #48
Right. bravenak Feb 2015 #49
just tell them ... the only blue dress that matters Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2015 #50
I think layering is easier for me to understand myself. bravenak Feb 2015 #52
yes, I hope it does take the heat off Monica. Good thought. Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2015 #53
I've heard the base analogy before. bravenak Feb 2015 #54
I saw it and seems to me that I have experienced all of that as a white woman Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2015 #55
Honestly, it's less about Patricia and more about how our society works. bravenak Feb 2015 #57
Yes, I understand now. That was not right. It is good that conversation is started. Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2015 #58
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