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History of Feminism
In reply to the discussion: Navigating a 'Crooked Room': Reflections From Black Women on Their Experiences in Progressive Spaces [View all]F4lconF16
(3,747 posts)9. Excellent article.
A mindful ally knows that their ally card expires at 11:59 p.m. every night, and that every day theres the opportunity to be a stronger ally and build more meaningful relationships. However, allyship is not a process for the weak-willed or faint of heart, neither is it for people of color to work with progressives and allies who themselves are complicit in the oppression of people who are marginalized.
It is most certainly not for the faint of heart. It is not easy to look closely at ourselves and confront our bigotries, and they are many, both conscious and not. Truly listening to someone tell you that you hold bigotry inside you is both painful and enlightening. But here's the way I look at it: as tough as it is to admit my prejudices, it is one hell of a lot harder for the person on the receiving end. I can't stomach the thought that my ignorance of myself would bring others harm. It's one thing to screw up on occasion, and another to shut yourself off from criticism or advice entirely, which is what many privileged progressives do.
There is a huge amount of resistance among the white liberal community to the fact that we are and always will be complicit to some extent in the oppression of PoC. Though I suppose it's to be expected, it's disheartening. I see the same thing when it comes to women's rights and liberal men. Above all, we need to listen and empathize. This is, I think, why there was such a large backlash against people who called out (and rightfully so) Patricia Arquette for her comments backstage. We refused to listen, and instead of attempting to understand our own reaction, we diminished and trivialized the issues presented.
Thanks for the article.
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Navigating a 'Crooked Room': Reflections From Black Women on Their Experiences in Progressive Spaces [View all]
bravenak
Feb 2015
OP
I believe I understand what I just read in the article, but frankly I'm not sure.
BlueJazz
Feb 2015
#2
Is the bottom line: We Black women are not recieving the respect and help from ...
BlueJazz
Feb 2015
#5
"If intersectionality is not a part of feminism, then I guess I'm not a feminist.
F4lconF16
Feb 2015
#10
"I ruined the entire movement by voicing the concerns of black women." Wow. You know, it's sad ...
BlueJazz
Feb 2015
#12
"Those women were hella strong." From reading about their lives, if they can't get someone...
BlueJazz
Feb 2015
#17
"I think it's best to discuss stuff, rather than be silent so as to not offend."
brer cat
Feb 2015
#19
I know. I had to go back and seriously read articles on this to figure out wtf.
bravenak
Feb 2015
#22
Thanks for the links. I added them to my Favorites List. Also, bravenak, please
Tuesday Afternoon
Feb 2015
#44
Lolol ... yes, blue/black. I think it depends a lot on the monitor/screen/processor.
Tuesday Afternoon
Feb 2015
#48
I saw it and seems to me that I have experienced all of that as a white woman
Tuesday Afternoon
Feb 2015
#55
Yes, I understand now. That was not right. It is good that conversation is started.
Tuesday Afternoon
Feb 2015
#58