Elder-caregivers

I was a caregiver to my mother, who had dementia in the final years of her life.
I think I did a bit of grieving before she died, mourning parts of her that were going or gone.
But her essence, her smile, her presence were what I missed most, and still miss after 6 years this week, but not in a deprived way. Rather, I feel blessed to have had her in my life and to have been able to care for her.

I had my cats for comfort also, but wasn't a member here at DU until several months later. I came looking for community and found a treasure trove of good souls, including you. I am also without close family, and was responsible for all the details of the burial and settling the estate. I really hope you don't have unpleasant dealings with your unpleasant relatives.
I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending another hug.

May your memories sustain you.